Let Them Know We Care
Become a WhatsApp Pen Pal for an LGBTQ African living in crisis—and help bring someone back to life.
Why This Matters
Every week, we receive hundreds of messages from LGBTQ Africans—refugees, displaced youth, and exiles—pleading for a lifeline.
They’ve been disowned by their families. In some cases, their relatives have tried to kill them in the name of “family honor” and twisted religious doctrine.
What they need, more than anything, is to know someone—somewhere—cares.
This Pen Pal Program is a chance to do something simple and sacred:
💬 Send a message.
🫶 Offer love.
✨ Remind them they are not alone.
Here’s How to Join—Whether You’re an Agape Companion or a Beloved Friend
✨ If You’re an Agape Companion
(You feel called to offer love and connection to someone in crisis.)
- 📱 Create a WhatsApp account (if you don’t already have one)
- 💬 Text Kintu (+1 917-509-5235) or ChouChou (+254-742-410294)
- 📅 Schedule a short 10-minute conversation so we can match you with a Beloved Friend
- 💞 Make a $50 donation to Diamond Mine Academy—this helps your Beloved Friend buy food and mobile data so they can communicate with you during the first week
- 💌 Your donation is tax-deductible in the U.S. and 100% of it goes directly to support your match
- 🌱 Begin your WhatsApp friendship—with guidance and ongoing support from Diamond Mine Academy
“We can listen to the silence of others, not just their words, and hear the meaning beyond the sound.”
— Alan Watts
🌍 If You’re a Beloved Friend
(You are a vulnerable East African seeking emotional and spiritual support.)
- 💬 Send a text message to Stephen, our Project Manager, to let him know you want to participate. He will send you an application to join the program.
📱 Stephen’s WhatsApp: +234 805 114 7458 - 🧡 Share a bit about your situation so we can match you with an Agape Companion
- 📱 Connect with your Companion on WhatsApp and begin exchanging loving, respectful messages
- 🙏 Feel free to express your needs—but always with honesty, patience, and a willingness to grow in faith
A Friendship That Transforms Two Lives
This isn’t about charity. This is about connection.
You’ll become a source of hope, love, and encouragement to someone who’s been made to feel invisible.
Many of our pen pals are living in camps or crisis zones with no access to jobs or income. So yes—they may ask you for help.
But this doesn’t mean you’re being taken advantage of. It means they’re hungry. They need data to message you. They’re surviving.
💡 We suggest treating your pen pal like you would a struggling friend:
- Ask: “Have you eaten today?”
- If they’re hungry, offer: “Would $10 help?”
- If yes, make a tax-deductible contribution to DMA. (see "Building Trust Before Transactions" below)
Just remember: while compassion is powerful, trying to fix or save someone can unintentionally take away their power. Your role is to walk beside them-- not in front of them-- with love, presence, and trust in their ability to grow
“Connection is why we're here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.”
— Brené Brown
The heart behind our connections
Omega Point Academy
Much of the spirit behind our Pen Pal Program comes from a deeply impactful source the Omega Point Academy created by Bill Wick -- one of the original architects of The ManKind Project and the New Warrior Training Adventure
Our entire movement began with a connection built from the Omega Point process.
When the world shut down during the pandemic, Bill created the Omega Point Program to spark meaningful connection across time and space. This free 40-day guided self-inquiry program invites people into a journey of inner healing, radical honesty, and spiritual awakening.
At Omega Point Academy, everyone is both:
- Teacher and Student
- Mentor and Mentee
- Master and Apprentice
And that’s exactly how we build our pen pal relationships—with mutual dignity, growth, and presence.
I (Kintu) took the Omega Point Workbook with me to Nairobi 3.5 years ago. It was there I met Abba Henry, a young gay man who would become my closest ally and the Co-Founder of Diamond Mine Academy.
We highly recommend starting with the Omega Point Self-Study Program—it’s free and incredibly powerful.
It will guide you through 40 days of reflection, emotional clarity, and spiritual grounding, so you can show up in your pen pal relationship as both a mirror and a light.
📘 Explore the Omega Point Program
Building Trust Before Transactions
This program is about building loving, trusting relationships—not offering immediate financial rescue. That’s why we ask all pen pals to spend the first 7 days focused only on listening, caring, and being present with their Beloved Friend.
The truth is, many of our East African friends have been pushed by desperation into begging—not because they are greedy or manipulative, but because they are hungry, alone, and doing what they can to survive.
That’s why we’ve created a gentle structure of support.
💞 Why We Ask Agape Companions to Donate $50 Upfront
When you’re matched with a Beloved Friend, we ask you to make a $50 donation to Diamond Mine Academy. This is:
- 🌽 Enough to help your match buy food and clean water
- 📶 Enough to purchase mobile data to message you during the first week
- 💖 A sacred gesture of love and stability—so your Beloved Friend can show up to the relationship with dignity
Your donation is 100% tax-deductible and goes directly to support your pen pal.
🫠Support Your Pen Pal with Love
Please do not send money directly.
This protects both you and your pen pal, and ensures safe, respectful distribution.
When you donate, please write your Pen Pal’s name in the "Add a note" section at checkout.
Your gift will go directly to them, bringing hope and care when it’s needed most.
Thank you for being part of this beautiful circle of love.
⏳ After the First 7 Days
Once you’ve established a connection and trust begins to grow, we encourage you to ask simple, kind questions:
- “Have you eaten today?”
- “Do you have data to message me?”
- “Is there a small way I can help?”
If you feel called to offer support, we welcome you to make another contribution to Diamond Mine Academy—with your Beloved Friend’s name in the note—and we will immediately forward the funds to them.
🤝 Mutual Agreements & Loving Boundaries
To build a connection rooted in trust, love, and dignity, we ask both the Agape Companion and the Beloved Friend to enter into this relationship with intention. Below are the core agreements we invite all participants to embrace:
🌟 Agreements for Agape Companions
I agree to:
- Be present, loving, and respectful at all times
- Commit to building trust before offering financial support
- Avoid giving direct financial assistance or promising visas
- Channel any financial gifts through Diamond Mine Academy
- Remember I’m here to walk beside, not to fix or save
- Communicate honestly, gently, and consistently
Set healthy boundaries with love and kindness
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.”
— Brené Brown
🌍 Agreements for Beloved Friends
I agree to:
- Be honest about my needs and situation
- Focus on building a relationship, not just asking for help
- Refrain from begging, pressuring, or manipulating my Companion
- Respect their boundaries and responses
- Trust that help will come in divine timing and divine ways
- Stay in communication and express gratitude when supported
Grow in faith, dignity, and the power of manifesting my own future
📝 Together, We Commit to:
- Communicating with honesty and respect
- Holding space for each other’s stories and truths
- Remaining open to learning, listening, and growing
- Returning to Agape when things feel hard
- Asking for help when we need it—and offering it with love
Ready to Say Yes?
If you feel called to walk alongside someone who simply needs to know they matter—this is your chance.
This is Agape. This is listening. This is love.
